Don't waste our time trying to please and impress people around us. This isn't an excuse to be an inconsiderate jerk, but we must put a high value on our time. Learn to say no to people who don't show interest and respect us.
Helping other people is great but it is better to focus on serving the greatest good than simply appealing to the whims and fancy of our friends and family. Don't waste our energies trying to fit other expectations. Set our own dreams, standards and ambitious and make it our highest priority.
Altruism is an illusion but it's not selfish to love ourselves, take care of ourselves and make our happiness a top priority.
